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Methodology

Originally, the plan was to develop a list of 100 questions submitted by friends, clients, colleagues, customers, and associates. Each to be to asked of and answered by a pool of 100 participating women who would be able to, under anonymity, tell it like it is without concern for what others may think of their answers or thoughts.  

Why 100 questions and 100 women?. Simple, it’s a nice round number that lends itself easily to deciphering percentages and statistics. It’s also a large enough segment of the female population to assure that we got every single possible answer for our readers. It just seemed right and made sense, so we went for it.  

Heart

This, however, quickly proved to be a daunting and unmanageable task, as: (A) We first discovered that actually it was pretty damn tough to come up with even 50, completely separate and distinct, uniquely original questions. Questions that didn’t blur the boundaries of the subject matter, fading to one degree or another, into other fairly similar questions or cross over entirely into other answers, once the true responses were revealed and read, studied and analyzed for consideration of being published in this treatise.  

In other words, what we discovered was that in typical male fashion, we had over-thought the process by at least 50%. We guys had over-estimated the complexity of the situation, the magical mystery of the female mind, and as usual, true to form, were making the whole process way too complicated. 

Casual Sex

Most women do in fact want to date and also most of them honestly, truly love sex. Many women, a lot more than you have ever been led to suspect, are not only more than willing to have erotic encounters with the right guy. And even experience what so many of us dream of every night when we go to bed, good, old “Casual Sex,” on a purely, no-strings-attached, non-committal basis.  

But we guys need to fully understand that the way that out culture’s social conventions and moral stipulations work in our lives, our jobs, our reputations, that in this society, women have to be very, very careful and precise in how they go about doing so.  

Couple

Men who understand the unique challenges that women in particular face in order to get involved in the sexual revolution are going to be appreciated, valued and get tons of fun and entertaining dates as well as laid on an ever steady and regular basis. This ability to accommodate the special needs and concerns of the modern female, so that she can comfortably participate in the act of dating, in a way that they feel comfortable and secure. This comfort and security, this sense of well being and understanding, this knowing that you care, will naturally lead help you down the path to some potentially very wild, erotic, sexual adventures. Because you show an educated and cultured grasp of the importance of protecting her reputation. Women are expected to maintain a sense of dignity and virtue. They also tend to expect you to make the necessary efforts and participate in the goal of her achieving safety and security, while avoiding danger, loss, judgement and illness. This is your “Free Pass” to enter relationships, and eventually get between the legs of some of the most attractive and desirable Babes on Planet Earth. But you need to know what you are doing and what she is thinking.  

Cyndi Lauper told us years ago that “Girls just want to have fun,” and that is still true today. But women tend to be a lot more calculated and plan things out in their minds to a much greater degree than us guys. So what we often seem to view as chicks just playing “mind-games”, is in reality simply the more elaborate and involved process that females go through in order to prepare themselves for the ability to let their hair and panties down and have the kind of FUN we were discussing. 

Why Being Yourself Is the Only Way to Successfully Find Love Online

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Before publishing this book, I showed it to over a dozen trusted friends to get their feedback. Nobody ever doubted the message that I was trying to convey but, rather, the way in which it was conveyed. But the language in this how-to guide was not an accident or an oversight. It's intentionally irreverent, blunt, silly, and, hopefully, helpful. Most of all, it's honest. I made a point to write not what people wanted to hear but rather what people needed to hear.

It's the difference between talking with a trusted friend as opposed to an acquaintance. The trusted friend may take you aside one day and tell you that you've been acting like a real jerk recently and want to know what's up, while the acquaintance will most likely write you off as a real jerk and never even tell you that she has given up on you. I'm trying to be the trusted friend here.

The truth hurts. However, if you don't have the truth, you're living in your own fantasyland, which is a world that nobody occupies but you. That's lonely. It has to be extremely difficult to make informed dating decisions if you're not seeing things like the rest of the world sees them. You may think you have good pictures up, you m.iy think you have strong essays, you may think that you have a good
 
system for writing other members, you may think that your singledom is everybody else's fault. But if you're not getting results, the only place to look is within.

The Magic Formula You've All Been Waiting For [ Online Dating ]

The Dating Game: Farrah Fawcett

I'm always telling people that online dating takes three things: creativity, patience, and resilience. The creativity will help you construct your winning profile and your witty emails; the patience is necessary,
 
because if you go into this thinking that you're going to fall in love in a month, you're bound to be disappointed; and resilience is a must, because in a forum like this, with millions of single people optimistically hoping to find "the one," most of us are going to have to first meet a lot of people who are not "the one." That means there's going to be rejection. Lots of it. And if your self-esteem isn't in good shape, then this may be a rough medium for you.
Unfortunately, no book can imbue you with self-esteem if you don't have it already. This guide is solely intended to prepare you adequately for what to expect in the sea of Internet dating and how to navigate its choppy waters. It can't prepare you for real-life experience any more than a pre-med class can prepare a doctor for performing surgery. But, like a class, if you absorb the information and keep it in the back of your mind (or at the front of your bookshelf), it may just save your ass when it's time for the big test.